A girl who asks you how your day was can be considered cute. A girl who greets you in lingerie while holding a freshly made dinner for you is hot!
That desire that they be someone other than who they were when they married you is toxic to a relationship.
All of my siblings who married in the church 1 discussed getting married on the first date 2 were engaged within two months, and 3 were married within six months.
I tried telling him that I know myself enough that I would not be happy in this kind of relationship.
She will not marry you until you convert to mormonism whole cloth. I agree with what you and so many of the other replies have said: Listen with an open heart and curiosity.
My current atheism bothers him a little but as long as we respect each other it's fine. I also didn't want to push him away by overwhelming him with talks about commitment when he's already stressed.